Dating In The Control Booth

[Tomas]

I don't if this should go here or not. Not really a good place for it anywhere. Has anyone ever dated someone thats in shows your running tech for? If so how did it work out? What happened?

Yes I have done it and I will never do it again.... I dated someone that was in band,choir,talent shows, musicals, and other events. What has been said that tech people are the right people to date if you do a lot they make sure everything goes right for you.

So basically she used me for her own gain. She screwed me over bad. We were going out before a singing contest american idol for our high school and then when it was over she broke up with me over myspace when I was at the hospital with my dad who had a heart attack. This is only half of the story but really I thought she loved me but it was all a lie.

So take my advice never date anyone your running tech for. The truth is they are only going out with you to use you for there own gain. I'm sure someone on the form is going through this right now and I'm tell you to put a end to it before its too late...

I just came up with a quote Trust a tech over a actor if a tech is on the fly rail and yells heads you get the hell out of the way but if a actor yells heads everyone stands thinking he/she is acting and someone gets hurt and that person might be you.

and

Don't put your heart in a actors hands... do you see what they do to the sets!

[Les]

I've done it twice, and it didn't work out either time. One time was an actress (6 months) and the other was an actress/stage crew member (only a couple of months and she was VERY weird). Theatre girls just don't seem to be my type. Instead I married a girl who has some interest in theatre but doesn't base her life around it, and hasn't done a show since middle school. She's more in to making clothes and crafty sort of things. I think it's great that there are those out there who are dating or married to someone of the same profession, but sometimes I think there can be too many similarities between two people. It's good to have different interests to a certain extent. Depending on the person, having similar expertise can sometimes become a competition, which is rarely very healthy. Again, for those who have been successful at it, I think it's great.

[Footer]

I don't think I would go that far with don't ever date someone who is onstage. I met my wife working on shows in college. She is a dancer, but she was working on a practicum lighting crew. I was the house TD for the space they were in and we hit it off there. (I was also the TA of the lighting class she was in... but we won't go there).

I have dated both in and out of the theatre world, dated a girl for 4.5 years, all through high school, all through her undergrad, and through a year of her grad school (I was 2 years younger). It did not work out because she simply did not understand what is was that I did and why I had to be where I was when I was. My wife knows what I do, and why I do it. In fact, she has worked as an electrician professionally for the last 2 years when she is not doing other things. Don't discount "the other side" right now.

[cprted]

Originally Posted by Tomas

So basically she used me for her own gain. She screwed me over bad. We were going out before a singing contest american idol for our high school and then when it was over she broke up with me over myspace when I was at the hospital with my dad who had a heart attack. This is only half of the story but really I thought she loved me but it was all a lie.

Ain't love grand?

[Tomas]

Originally Posted by cprted

Ain't love grand?

OH YES IT IS!!! HAHAH

[sk8rsdad]

Originally Posted by cprted

Ain't love grand?

Several hundred grand...

[cprted]

Originally Posted by sk8rsdad

Several hundred grand...

Only if you marry them ...

[MSLD]

I was dating a girl that broke up with me because we spent TOO much time together.

Explain that.

[mattbarnes84]

iv done that... TROUBLE on the catwalk... i'll let it rest with just that

[drama81]

I am a lighting/sound tech. I am married to the stage manager at my theatre. He does his job I do mine. If there is a disagreement at work it is dealt with in a professional manner. Our personal lives stay at home. It works great. We both do what we love and love what we do. The senior tech I work with is married to an actor and they work out just fine. In fact she loves to watch him on stage. So keep your chin up.