OK, here are your answers. First, I am going to
address the IR question. A blue
gel sounds counterintuitive for an IR filter, but it isn't!! The dark blue gels have a pretty good IR pass on them, as IR is one octave away frequency wise from blue. Also, it's the only way they would survive without heat blowing out the color medium. So, you set your lamp on a dim setting where the
filament is putting out 90% IR and
block the visible red light with the blue gel that is allowing the IR to pass. Instant IR source! If you are using a cheap IR security camera, you will be surprised at how good the results are! (see PS below)
As for the light question, it depends on what ambient light you are working with in the theater. The human eye has a 100,000 to 1 ratio between washout and black. (It does have to adjust a
bit.) (btw- Film is about 1000 to 1) The eye also has a really great "automatic
gain control!" So, if your theater gets black enough, you could probably do
stage lighting with candles. (after a few hours.) HOWEVER, we live in the real world, with bright little EXIT signs over the doors, light leaking through doorframes,
etc. So, how far do you have to get above the ambient light to "light" a show? More on the eye- The eye has a wide range, but as with sound,
level changes have to be pretty radical to be noticeable. Except for
effect lighting, your stage lighting level needs to be about 10 times as bright as the ambient light in the theater. The exception to this is color. A deep red filter may knock much of the transmitted light out, but the monochromic (I know, most colors are not) light has steep peaks which the eye can discern better than a "
flat" light of the same lower output.
All this technical jumbo aside, the only real rule to follow is to sit back, watch the show at a dress rehearsal, and follow your heart!
PS: I once knew a guy that worked out a IR filter for his follow spot and used a sniper-scope for his
blind pickups!