Your next to last sentence pretty much sums it up. The person backstage can't hear how things sound in the house, if they can hear anything, so they may be able to hit mutes for cues, etc., but how are they actually mixing the wireless? And how can the person at FOH mix sounds in the house when they can't control the individual mic levels?Maybe I wasn't clear. I would put the second mixer back stage with an operator that would be responsible for only the wireless mics. Maybe in a spot where he/she can see when the actors enter and exit the stage (or with a video monitor). The output of that board would be run to the main mixer. That way the backstage mixer operator can concentrate on mixing the wireless and turning the mics on and off at the right time while the booth operator can concentrate on how the mix sounds in the house. Just a thought.
I think the bigger issue here is that I doubt having all the receivers backstage is going to fix the problem. I could be wrong but better RF front ends cost more and one of the common limitations of lower cost wireless systems is supporting a limited number of simultaneous systems, so I think the problem is most likely to be that the existing wireless systems do not support the number of simultaneous systems desired. If that is the problem then there may be no real option other than reducing the number of wireless systems or obtaining other equipment that supports a minimum of 14 wireless systems operating simultaneously in the existing RF environment. So before placing any blame or expending effort on other possibilities, it makes sense to verify that what you have is even appropriate for the application and has any chance of working.