If you have a generator, get a transfer
switch or other interlocked switching
system before there is any problem. It's just like PM versus a trouble
call; it's easier and cheaper when scheduled in
advance and nobody is rushing.
In an emergency, rather than backfeed a
house circuit (with all of the risk and liability involved), just run a normal extension
cord or two from the generator to the few loads you want to
power up. You won't be powering up any large loads anyway, at least with most small generators. As for the furnace, it's easy to temporarily
wire up a
plug and cap the normal feed so you can run it this way.
There's no safe use for a double male
power cord. Even if you think that you will "always" remember to safely sequence the breakers and plugging/unplugging it, people make mistakes during emergencies, and others, having watched you using your cable, may try it themselves in their own
house or when you aren't there and miss a critical step. Then someone gets shocked, killed, or a
house burns down.
/mike